Life isn’t fair

I’ve heard this many a time from an emotional child (or adult), “It’s not fair!”

This got me thinking.  What is fair?  Where does this idea come from?  Clearly even animals can sense when something isn’t fair.  Check out this video showing what I mean. (1 min)

Where does this feeling come from?  Why do we constantly compare our lives to our surroundings.  Can’t we just be happy with what we have?  Clearly not.  Saying to the monkey, “Hey, it’s better than starving to death.”

I’ve often tried to teach perspective (unsuccessfully) to my kids. They seem incapable of seeing how much good they have.  Our brains are wacky things.

A colleague (Atanasio) said something very interesting about the subject.

He said, “There is this knowledge buried deep in all living things that there is something perfect…fair.  However, we also know and feel (on a regular basis) that THIS (our reality) isn’t it.  Where we live and breathe isn’t perfect and isn’t fair. This perfect place is somewhere else.  The real question is whether that other perfect place exists.”

Here are a few pithy quotes I roll out to people on this subject:

  • In life, you don’t get what you deserve.  You get what you negotiate.
  • It’s not about compromise.  You win some and you lose some.
  • Bad luck is just good karma for the future.
  • The only thing you can control is you.  Look on the bright side.

Anyway, this is what I was thinking about this week.

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